I'm guessing you wouldn't mind having more friends and influence either. So I am starting a chapter by chapter book report to share with you. We will all be able to better control the people around us!
So, here is Chapter 1: "If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive"
Don't criticize people. Even if they really, really deserve it. Period. Try to understand people and cut them some slack.
Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain---and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. (p. 36)